Why I Used To Hide My Heritage

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That’s right.  I used to hide my heritage.  I get that sounds weird.  I didn’t appreciate my uniqueness.  What made me…me.  I was inspired to read this post after I watched a video with Shay Mitchell.  I could relate all too well.  Let me try to explain why I had such an inner struggle.

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Tired of being called exotic or pretty for being brown.  I know being exotic is something I should have embraced.  It is meant to be a compliment.  Truth be told, I kind of like it now.  But as a teenager it just made me feel different and not as worthy.  It made me feel like I wasn’t like everyone else.  Now, I enjoy being different.

I was made fun of…a lot.  I wasn’t really told I was pretty until my freshman year of high school.  In fact, I was reminded how ugly I was every single day from kindergarten to eighth grade.  It’s hard not to be self-conscious at that point.   I was one of a few kids who were not caucasian.    Even though I started to feel confident in my skin during my high school years the old me would still nag on each little feature.  I would hate on my skin color, my eyes, my hair color, my smile, my nose, my stomach, everything.  Everything that I should have loved – especially that stomach because I looked good.  Don’t you wish you could go back to your former self and give them a little pep talk?  I know I do.  

I was the weird kid who would bring sushi to lunch.  Now, sushi is the cool thing.  I bet my son’s friends will be jealous when I make him sushi for lunch.  

Growing up, I would look at other girls and wish I looked just like them.  Pamela Anderson was all the rage and I looked nothing like her.  No one really looked like me until Jessica Alba in Dark Angel and Jennifer Lopez in Selena came along.  Before that, I didn’t have any celebrities with similar features to me that were considered beautiful.

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I felt different.  I remember one of my high school teachers told us to look around and see how many non-white students were in the class.  Guess where everyone looked?  Right at me and one other kid.  Don’t worry, his lesson was to talk about the lack of diversity in a constructive way.

I hated my brown eyes.  They looked like poop.  So what did I do?  I wore colored contacts.  Blue and green contacts were my go-tos.  I wore them almost every single day my senior year of high school.  

Want to know what else?  I loved to dye my hair.  I wasn’t into my dark brown hair.  It didn’t help that Jessica Alba and Jennifer Lopez both had pretty blonde hair too.  I still get the itch to dye my hair, but now it’s because I want to.  Not because I’m trying to look less ethnic.  I even dyed my hair blonde after Damian because I was tired of people thinking I was the nanny.

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I‘ve had boyfriends moms not like me because of the color of my skin.  They “liked me” but didn’t feel I was “right for their son” because I didn’t have blonde hair and blue eyes.  The pain I felt can’t even be described.  This isn’t a one-off incident either.  There’s nothing I could do except cry.  It’s one thing for someone not liking you because your personality isn’t their cup of tea.  It’s another when someone writes you off because of your appearance or ethnicity before even giving you a chance.  That does a number on you.  

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Don’t feel like I’m really a part of a culture.  I’m not Japanese/Islander/Filipino/Indian/Irish/etc. Enough.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “that doesn’t count” when saying I’m a quarter Irish.  People don’t realize hearing the words “that doesn’t count” can really cut.  Do I not really count?  I don’t belong…anywhere?  Ouch.  That hurts.

My mother left me when I was one years old.  When that happened I lost any and all connections to being Filipino.  It’s always an awkward thing when people ask why I don’t know any tagalog or about the culture.  I know pancit, adobo chicken, and lumpia.  That’s it.  I wish it was different but those are the cards I was dealt.

I was raised in a Japanese household by my half Japanese, half Indian grandmother.  Sadly, her Indian father was taken away from her during World War II while they lived in Japan.  The Japanese considered him under British rule even though his family was Japanese.  Growing up, she dealt with a lot of prejudices being biracial.  As you can imagine, that didn’t stop when she married an Irish army man from Kansas.

Today I am proud of my background, yet I still don’t feel like I’m really part of any culture.  In my soul, I’ve always felt more drawn to the Polynesian culture.  Not because I look the most like it.  It brings a sense of home to my soul.  However, that’s not all that I am.  I am a mix of beautiful, interesting, and dynamic cultures.  In spite of that, I’m never enough.  Isn’t that a sad feeling even in today’s society?  I still have to check “other” as my ethnicity.  

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Racism still exists today. I get confused for the nanny all the time.  I have been followed in stores from clerks.  I’ve heard she’s cute for being ethnic or for being a brown girl.  Still.  In 2016.  Racism is live and well in America.  All you have to do is look on your Facebook feed or turn on the news.    

Even with today’s culture I don’t care anymore.  I just don’t.  I have finally grown to love my brown skin.  I love my dark hair.  I love my dark eyes.  Yes, there are times when I don’t like what I see in the mirror.  But, I love my ethnicity.  While I still don’t feel like I belong in any box that’s okay.  I can be a little bit of everything and if anyone has a problem with it that’s on them.  

Love yourself.  Whether you’re mixed or not – love yourself.  You are beautiful and unique.  Embrace it.

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Get Your Photos Organized..Finally! + MiMedia Giveaway

This post is brought to you in partnership with MiMedia and The Motherhood.  As always, all opinions are 100% mine and my own.  

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Do you have memories stored on your phone?  Mine are.  

Are they organized?  Could you look at your favorite picture with ease, or is it buried with thousands of other photos?  

I have a confession.  I am the worst when it comes to organizing my pictures.  I will take a ton of pictures and never do anything with them.  They just sit in my camera roll…forever.  I finally decided to start organizing the memories in my life and signed up for MiMedia – the cloud you always wanted.  I don’t have to message myself certain photos to use on another device. I can easily access my media files from anywhere through my cloud.

I hear so many horror stories about phones being stolen.  I don’t know about you but every time the message tells me my cloud storage is full on my iPhone I ignore it.  And ignore it.  And ignore it.  Up until I partnered with MiMedia, I would have been out of luck.

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So, why did I choose MiMedia?

It’s the personal cloud you’ve always wanted.  Our beloved memories finally have a digital home.  All the photos, videos, music, and documents you care most about are in one spot.  They are safe, organized, and accessible on all devices (phone, tablet, and web), iOS, and Android.  First off, it’s easy and organizes all of my digital files for me.  One-click import from Facebook, Dropbox, Google+, Picasa, Flickr, and more.  MiMedia helps organize, find, personalize, and (re)discover your media from all different sources.

We as consumers are amassing precious personal media at an extremely high rate each year.  We store our memories on new devices without any organization.  We all heard about the privacy invasion many celebrities faced from their cloud.  

Mi Media is safe and secure.  Users can select what content is shared, with whom, and on an item-by-item basis.  The rest of your files are safely hidden away knowing MiMedia utilizes the highest level of encryption and security available on the market.

MiMedia is about simplifying, enjoying, and sharing our digital lives.  It offers a rich and engaging experience plus powerful tools to curate, personalize, and (re)discover your digital memories.  

My favorite feature was finding the precious videos I took of my coconuts throughout the past few years.  I forgot about so many of them until now!  I love how they were already documented by date they were taken too.  MiMedia really does organize your media with ease!

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There are five main ways MiMedia wins and differentiates itself from other platforms:

  1. Interface and Design
  2. Simplicity
  3. Organization and Curation
  4. Private Sharing
  5. Discovery and Engagment

Yes, private sharing.  Want to share a photo with the grandparents?  You can share a link via email/text/social media without having them sign up for MiMedia.  The other option is to create a private sharing drive (MiDrive), which does require all users to sign up for a free MiMedia account if they want to contribute or chat with other family members and friends.  Members in your MiDrive will also get notifications whenever you put new content in there.

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There is a huge feature in the works right now – facial recognition!  When it comes out any pictures of my coconuts will automatically get sent to loved ones via my Family MiDrive.  How amazing is that?!

One of my favorite features is how easy it is to delete photos.  I have too many pictures of my kid’s attempts at a selfie.  Like, 100 of just one selfie attempt.  I highlight and delete all the unwanted pictures.  Right now, MiMedia is working to collapse photos that lo0k similar so they aren’t cluttering your viewing experience in MiMedia.

Want to try MiMedia for yourself?  You can sign up at MiMedia for a free account or use the code THEMOTHERHOOD to receive special promotions and information on contests, as well as exclusive access to try new features through an opt-in program.  

Want to win a year of MiMedia for yourself?  Trust me, you do.  It’s awesome.  Enter below to enjoy a year long trial of the Basic 500GB MiMedia plan. 

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Stitch Fix Through Snapchat

Hi friends!  I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about this blog and I would really like to incorporate more of my travels, random day trips, and glimpse into my life as a mom and football wife.  Would you guys be interested in that?  I sure hope so!  I promise to still include beauty, style, family, and incorporate food back into here.  The pull to make it more personal has been tugging at me for several months.  

One of the most personal ways to get to know me is through Snapchat right now.  It’s so easy to show little clips of my day, silly little bursts, and random mini-rant or rave sessions.  Be sure to add me – AndreaBai – of you haven’t already. Last night, I showed what arrived in my Stitch Fix shipment.  I saved the snaps to share here on this post.  I’ll be sure to take much nicer pics for the blog next time!

If you don’t know what Stitch Fix is let me fill you in.  It’s a personal styling service.  You pay $20 each shipment which can be credited towards your purchase.  The shipments can be automatically set to your liking or you can request the boxes as you wish.  You fill out questionnaires and can give feedback to your stylist regarding your style needs and tastes.  They then send you a package of 5 items.  Often times you will see pants, tops, and now shoes.    Let’s see what I got!

Yes, I took the picture in my kid’s room.  They have a better mirror for it!

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This is a really fun and unique top.  I think the best way to describe it is half-sweatshirt half-blouse.  Don’t you think?  I personally prefer loose fitting tops but struggle finding ones don’t look like tents with my slightly larger chest.  This fit a little big yet I still love it.  Keeping it!

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I really loved this scalloped top.  My only issue was you could clearly see my bra band.  Even if I wore a black bra I wouldn’t feel comfortable.  I am not a braless kinda girl.  I like the support.  Too bad because I would have bought this in a heartbeat!

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A dress!  I gotta tell you..this thing was comfy!  My only issue was it hit at a weird part of my leg and wasn’t the most flattering on myself.  The print, fit, and comfort were spot on.

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These Kut from the Kloth boyfriend jeans were exactly what I needed two weeks ago!  I just bought jeans or else I would have purchased these too.  The distressing isn’t overdone and perfect with a cute top and flats.

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Speaking of flats – these burlap TOMS were also in my Fix.  I didn’t find the burlap material to be as comfortable as my other toms.  When I wear flats I do it for the comfort and ease.  I still can’t decide if I kinda love or kinda hate the burlap.  What do you think?

Would you have kept anything from my Stitch Fix shipment?  Sign up for yourself and see what you get!

 
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How To Get Great Skin Head To Toe

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The sun is shining and I have started wearing shorts already.  Sorry, to all of you East Coasters!  It’s time to make sure you have summer ready skin from head-to-toe.  I’ve partnered with Dove to tell you all about their New Dove Dry Oil Collection featuring their Dove Dry Oil Beauty Bar and Dove Dry Oil Moisture Body Wash.  It has made such a difference!  Soft, smoother skin is something every woman desires, however 1 in 3 women suffer from dry skin and 98% of women feel more confident when their skin is moisturized vs. dry.  Let me walk you through how I keep my skin supple without a thousand steps.

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I start every shower with the new Dove Dry Oil Moisture Body Wash.  It maintains and nourishes your skin’s protective layer during cleansing and replenishes 1x more skin natural nutrients than competitors while the Dove Dry Oil Beauty Bar contains 1/4 moisturizing cream and Moroccan Argan Oil to gently cleanse and care for your skin, leaving it soft and smooth.  It’s been a life saver when it comes to healing my winter alligator skin.  

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I use the Dove Dry Oil Beauty Bar to cleanse my skin and gently remove my makeup.  It has 1/4 moisturizing cream for soft, smooth, and radiant skin.  This cleanser helps me knock out two steps while revealing a beautifully clean face.

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After cleansing my skin with The New Dove Dry Oil Collection, I soak a cotton round in my favorite toner and apply in an upward motion.  This helps balance the pH levels in my skin.

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Lastly, I simply moisturize my skin to lock in the hydration.  I also apply this in an upward motion.  It helps keep skin lifted and helps fight the aging process. This routine is quick, simple, and won’t break the break!  I have been using Dove for well over a decade – maybe even two!  I really love how The New Dove Dry Oil collection contains Moroccan Argan Oil.  It’s one of my favorite items for beauty.

Have you tried The New Dove Dry Oil Collection yet?!

This post is part of a social shopper marketing insight campaign with Pollinate Media Group® and Dove, but all my opinions are my own.  #DoveDifference #ShowerAwayDrySkin #DovePartner http://my-disclosur.es/OBsstV

 

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Lego Time

My kids are obsessed with LEGOs.  I mean, beyond obsessed.  Is there a word more obsessive than obsessed?  We play with them every single day. So naturally he loves all of the movies and television shows.  Netflix has a huge range of LEGO shows right now ready to be streamed.  Damian loves LEGO Ninjago!  Here are some other choices to keep your littles entertained:

LEGO Friends Camp Wild Hearts Still 2

LEGO Friends: The Power of Friendship

 

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LEGO Bionicle: The Journey to One

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LEGO Extravaganza

Can’t get enough of LEGO? We don’t blame ya. Check out these other LEGO titles available onNetflix.

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LEGO DC Comics: Batman Be-Leagured

 

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LEGO: City

 

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LEGO: Elves

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New on Netflix for Kids, Tweens, Teens and Families

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Pee-wee’s Big Holiday (3/18)

 

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Popples: Season 2 (3/11)

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Dinotrux: Season 2 (3/11)

 

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The Mr. Peabody & Sherman Show: Season 2 (3/18)

 

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Veggie Tales: In The House (3/25)

What are you streaming?

Disclaimer: I am a member of the Netflix #StreamTeam. I was compensated for this post however all opinions are honest and my own.  

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